Article From D Magazine

CHILDREN CAN DECIDE WHICH PARENT THEY WANT TO LIVE WITH.
Reality: A judge may consider a child’s wishes, but they are not required to follow them. Even if a child lives primarily with one parent, he or she will still spend time with the other parent and, absent a risk of safety or harm, that time will include overnights and extended periods in the summer and around holidays.

WE CAN FIGURE THINGS OUT WITHOUT LAWYERS WHO JUST WANT US TO FIGHT.
Reality: In most cases, family lawyers are necessary and add value through their expertise.
Lawyers help navigate the process and make sure the most important issues get addressed, so that parties don’t have to return to court later and spend time and money fixing what could have been addressed properly the first time.

EVERYONE WILL KNOW THE DETAILS OF MY CASE.
Reality: Most divorce details are not public, particularly information about children and financial or proprietary information. Some judges will also seal the court file to protect private information being made available to the public.
If parties are concerned about litigating their suit in a public courtroom, they can choose to use a private judge or the collaborative divorce process, which allows for a completely private setting behind closed doors.

I WILL WIN (OR LOSE) EVERYTHING.
Reality: Everything gets divided or shared to some extent, including parenting time. There is no “winner-takes-all” in a divorce.

Source: Abby Ewing and Stephanie Matherne, Estes Thorne Ewing Payne